Influencing is one such art or skill without which it is virtually impossible to work in today’s work culture. There is no single or a perfect method of influencing others. As a matter of fact, almost everything acts as a factor, when it comes to influencing any individual. Whatever way it takes, but having the influencing power, really makes your job easier. Here are a few ways which will help you influence people:

1. People who you are influencing should know that you are with and for the policies and procedure and also that whatever you are vouching for is legitimate and ethical. Usually people have apprehensions about the legalities; once assured that what you are suggesting is the best positive thing possible, people would be with you.
2. Rather than using a dictating approach, try to give them some logic behind what you are suggesting. Use examples and very simple language, which they would understand, while explaining the logic behind what you are proposing. Make your point after providing an example and ask them to think, this would stimulate a thought process ending into acceptance with what you’re suggesting.
3. The people you are trying to influence should be assured that you are their friend. Any concern or doubt that they would have would be taken care of, is an assurance that you give the people strength to be with what you are suggesting.
4. How you socialize with people helps you influence their actions as well. Be very warm, helpful, friendly and pleasant to them, irrespective of the mind set that you are in. You should be socially active and visible. The fact that you are approachable would really add a bonus point.
5. Rather than putting a point and asking the people to abide by them provide some logic. Try to give out a suggestion and ask for their inputs to make it better. This would help the people whom you would like to influence, to think about what you are asking on a positive note of acceptance.
6. The confidence that you demonstrate while putting your thought forward would help you to make a point. The confidence that you would have would get you an immediate and ready acceptance from half of the people. This is a common psychological thinking that if something is said with confidence; people tend to assume that it’s the right thing to use. It creates a bias in their mind and their thought process becomes positive for what is said in that style.
7. Associate the thought or the suggestion that you have to a moral value so that they could not only relate it to better but, at the same time would catalyze the process of influencing. Show passion, commitment and emotions.
8. Lead with an example. What ever you are trying to propose, the same should be reflecting in your own behavior. This would not only give them confidence that you stand and follow what you preach, but would give them a practical demonstration of what you are proposing.
9. Exchange something of value with the people who are with you. This would ensure that the people would know that it’s a fair deal to vouch for your suggestions as they are not used as an instrument. They have the same respect and value as they had before being influenced.
10. Talk about team and oneness. Togetherness and alliance building would really take you far in the bargain. The power of unity would get your suggestions or proposal accepted.

The ability to empower others or to create an impact on others using your positive qualities is important for the success of a person. Empowering others do not mean to control others; it is the ability of a person to bring the energy and enthusiasm out of another person. The first thing that a person should do to empower others is to eliminate all factors that reduce their ability for what they are doing. Once you are able to empower a person you can motivate and inspire them. You can use you ability and knowledge to provide energy and resources to make them more effective. You have to empower three types of people in your life. They can be people close to you like family and friends or your staff and coworkers or other people with whom you interact like customers, suppliers or bankers.

There are many simple ways to empower people closer to you. The self esteem of a person is sacred to everyone. You must treat others with the same importance you give to yourself. The simplest way to empower others maintaining their self esteem is by showing expressions of appreciation in every positive thing they do. When you are appreciating or thanking them you are making them feel that they are important. They will feel that what they did was valuable and worthy. They will then be more willing to do what you are saying. You can empower people closer to you by using generous praise and approval. They will think themselves to be more important. This will make them feel better. When a person feels better he will be able to act better. You can increase the self esteem of those closer to by paying more attention to what they say and act. This will make them feel that they are more important and responsible.

The ability to motivate people at work places requires clarity in communication. You must be able to communicate exactly what is needed from the other person. When you are able to explain clearly what you require, the other person will be happier and more empowered. Consideration is another motivator that can empower people. A good motivator will have the ability to maintain a friendly relationship with the employees. Such people can control the employees without creating any hostility. You can ask personal questions to the employees or have lunch with them to create a friendly atmosphere.

You can empower other types of people around you by using the general principles of motivation like appreciation, attention, consideration and clarity in communication. The most important factor is that you should be genuine in your approach. You must have the ability to create a positive mental attitude in their minds. A person has to be friendly, patient and open minded to be successful in motivating others. Others must feel comfortable in your presence. You must understand the difficulties and be cooperative to them. You must deliberately show special interests in people and then they will be responding better to help you.

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The success in the life of person depends on his personality. And personality of a person depends on his self esteem. Self esteem is the driving power that provides energy for your actions. The enthusiasm and energy to act in a positive manner is derived form self esteem. Self esteem form the foundation for the ability of a person to say and do the right things. Self esteem is different from self confidence. Self esteem is the level and value that you give to yourself. People with high self esteem will think themselves to be wonderful and will be able to act with more self confidence. People with high self esteem can seldom fail due to the infinite flow of energy source from the mind. So, self esteem is the most important factor for the success of a person. A person’s ultimate aim should be to increase your self esteem.

A person has to carefully build and maintain their self esteem as they are maintaining their physical fitness. You are fully responsible for maintaining the strength of your mind and body. There are basically six elements of life that is directly liked to the self esteem of a person. They are the goals, standards, success, experience, comparison, recognition and rewards that you encounter in your life.

You must be able to set your goals appropriately. The correct way in which you set your goals and achievement of these goals in a timely manner will make you feel better. You will feel more confident when you are able to accomplish your goals as planned.

You must be able to set clear standards and values for your life. A person with self esteem will be able to act according to the values they consider to be important. When the values and ideals are higher, then you will consider yourself as a person with higher self esteem.

The experience of a person is important for building self esteem. The goals and standards you set are important to obtain positive experiences. Simplify your goals so that it can be completed as you have planned. Your self esteem will increase when you are able to achieve your target.

A person with higher self esteem should be able to compare themselves with others positively. You must have the ability to know what you are doing. Always try to do things better than other successful people. You must try to compare yourself only with successful people and study their performance to improve.

Recognition of you achievements by others will always help to increase your self esteem. You should let others know about your achievements. When you are appreciated by someone who you considers to be important your self esteem will go up.

You must be rewarded suitably according to your accomplishments. The bonus, better office, cars and trophies are rewards that recognize your accomplishments. If the existing situation does not provide circumstances for rewards, you should try to create your own system for rewarding yourself.