Self Esteem

HOW TO GIVE A PERSUASIVE SPEECH

It’s a task to make people see and believe in what you are proposing. The idea of a persuasive speech has the same endeavor. Giving a persuasive speech is not one of the favorite things for people who are general public speakers or who just want to influence a small group of people. Unlike any other speech, the speech to persuade people, to agree to a thing or a view point, is not just another speech. It needs to be planned and structured properly. A word could make a difference, at the same time; a wrong thought can devastate the situation. It’s quite a delicate thing when it comes to pursue people with the help of a public speech.

As far as the structure of the speech is concerned, the outline of the speech would ensure whether you would succeed in the persuasion or not. The best way to go about it is to ensure that you should know who you are addressing the speech to. Secondly, you should be able to analyze their comprehension ability. Once you have done that set yourself in a platform that is a step higher than what you have anticipated for the audience. Think of all the negatives possible for the thought that you would like to promote. Have a counter answer ready for each of the same. Then look at the positives and list them in a way that the most important once would top your list.

Now while you structure the speech have the positives first and address the top and most obvious negatives before the audience could ask for it. This would give rest to the immediate negative thoughts of the people about what you are proposing. They would be very impressed and motivated about the though that you are suggesting as their immediate apprehension is already addressed. Before the negative thoughts could creep in they have their thought alignment in a positive direction. While you are presenting the positives or justifying the negatives, ensure that you use ample of examples to support what you are saying. Let the audience see the logic in what you are saying, rather than pushing them to agree to vouch for the thought you are suggesting.

To attract credibility in your speech, rather than just being motivational words, talk about facts and references around what you are suggesting. Documentation, survey results, opinion polls etc would be such examples. This would help building credibility for the thought you are vouching for. This would require some homework, but it’s worth the effort.

During the speech ensure that “I” should be replaced with words like – us, with, amongst, team, together etc. This would ensure a feeling that it’s for every once betterment and every one would reap benefits out of it.

The opening and the closing of the speech is also important. Opening would attract the people to listen. This is the most challenging part. You could open pleasantly and urge them to listen. What is restored for them in it should be stated openly. While closing you state the reason of you being their and paraphrase to conclude. Ask for acceptance, request the crowd to answer back together.

Give the speech with confidence. Make sure you practice at least once before the actual performance. Use hands and vocal expressions to attract the listeners. Set the right tone and you would definitely gain success at the persuasion that you have in mind.

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10 WAYS YOU CAN INFLUENCE PEOPLE

Influencing is one such art or skill without which it is virtually impossible to work in today’s work culture. There is no single or a perfect method of influencing others. As a matter of fact, almost everything acts as a factor, when it comes to influencing any individual. Whatever way it takes, but having the influencing power, really makes your job easier. Here are a few ways which will help you influence people:

  1. People who you are influencing should know that you are with and for the policies and procedure and also that whatever you are vouching for is legitimate and ethical. Usually people have apprehensions about the legalities; once assured that what you are suggesting is the best positive thing possible, people would be with you.
  2. Rather than using a dictating approach, try to give them some logic behind what you are suggesting. Use examples and very simple language, which they would understand, while explaining the logic behind what you are proposing. Make your point after providing an example and ask them to think, this would stimulate a thought process ending into acceptance with what you’re suggesting.
  3. The people you are trying to influence should be assured that you are their friend. Any concern or doubt that they would have would be taken care of, is an assurance that you give the people strength to be with what you are suggesting.
  4. How you socialize with people helps you influence their actions as well. Be very warm, helpful, friendly and pleasant to them, irrespective of the mind set that you are in. You should be socially active and visible. The fact that you are approachable would really add a bonus point.
  5. Rather than putting a point and asking the people to abide by them provide some logic. Try to give out a suggestion and ask for their inputs to make it better. This would help the people whom you would like to influence, to think about what you are asking on a positive note of acceptance.
  6. The confidence that you demonstrate while putting your thought forward would help you to make a point. The confidence that you would have would get you an immediate and ready acceptance from half of the people. This is a common psychological thinking that if something is said with confidence; people tend to assume that it’s the right thing to use. It creates a bias in their mind and their thought process becomes positive for what is said in that style.
  7. Associate the thought or the suggestion that you have to a moral value so that they could not only relate it to better but, at the same time would catalyze the process of influencing. Show passion, commitment and emotions.
  8. Lead with an example. What ever you are trying to propose, the same should be reflecting in your own behavior. This would not only give them confidence that you stand and follow what you preach, but would give them a practical demonstration of what you are proposing.
  9. Exchange something of value with the people who are with you. This would ensure that the people would know that it’s a fair deal to vouch for your suggestions as they are not used as an instrument. They have the same respect and value as they had before being influenced.
  10. Talk about team and oneness. Togetherness and alliance building would really take you far in the bargain. The power of unity would get your suggestions or proposal accepted.
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10 TIPS ON HOW TO SPEAK CONFIDENTLY

Whenever it comes to new surroundings or people, do you really feel shy? It is quite imperative to get over your shyness at some point in your life and speak confidently. If you are able to achieve this, you will not only be able to share your ideas but will also be able to communicate without much of discomfort with anyone or everyone. Here are a few tips which can help you to speak confidently:

Tip 1: Practice

Practice is what makes the man perfect. The science behind it is that as you practice, the words get you into a subconscious mode and when you actually have to speak, it would flow naturally. To add expression so that what you speak sounds natural practice using a mirror.

Tip 2: Audience/ Listener

Knowing about the people you are addressing would make a lot of difference. This would help you to connect with them better. Even if in the beginning you are slightly hesitant, that hesitation would go away, as knowing them would help you to get comfortable, giving you all the confidence that you need to speak.

Tip 3: Being up to the point and using simple words

Avoid using heavy vocabulary and just keep it simple. Whatever that you want to say could be communicated best if you use simple words

Tip 4: Be mentally prepared

Before going ahead with what you have to say, despite all the practice you do, it is important that you be quite for at least 30-90 seconds to mentally prepare yourself.

Tip 5: Know or imagine the situation before actually being there and talking

If you know the place, be there and rehearse. If that is not an option than imagine the entire situation in your head. As and when you are imagining, you would notice certain points or events that you wouldn’t have been able to anticipate before. This would ensure that you would be ready for ever thing that would come your way. Knowing that you have anticipated almost every thing would help boost your confidence and would reflect when you would speak.

Tip 6: Volume

Ensure that you are audible while you are talking. As in case the other person is not able to hear you, he would ask you to speak again. This could shake your confidence.

Tip 6: Pace and pause consistency

Maintain and average pace, not too fast, not too slow. Pause according to what you want to communicate across. If the average pace is not good enough, tune your pace with that of the listener(s).

Tip 7: Vocal Variation

Have a friendly tone with lots of vocal expression. This would ensure listener’s interest is intact in what you are saying.

Tip 8: Think before you talk

If you are required to speak something on the spot for which you couldn’t practice, ensure that you have an average pace and think before you talk. While saying a sentence, ensure that you structuring your thoughts then say the next one.

Tip 9: Reactions

Look out for the reactions of the listener. The reactions would help you gain confidence about your thoughts being communicated and understood well at the same time. The fact that you are heard and comprehended would encourage you to speak better.

Tip 10: Don’t be embarrassed by your faults

It important to let go of any mistake that you did while speaking, continue speaking. Don’t get nervous. Get to the next thought and focus your thoughts away from that.

Source-Public Speaking

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